Thursday, April 20, 2006

Swimmer Wisdom

"Sean, worry about yourself."
- Sean Killion's mother to her then 8 year-old-son

I will never forget the first time I saw Sean Killion. My buddy and I were on the pool deck waiting to hear our special guest speaker talk about the nuances of the freestyle, and our coach approached this unknown person and they started talking very intently. The person in question was wearing an Oakland Raiders visor, flip flops, a North Face sweater vest, and looked like he was carrying about 50 pounds of dead weight on his hulking frame. In short he looked like a former professional football player that had mistaken the entrance of the pool somehow to the weight room. But sure enough, this character was one of the greatest American swimmers of the past twenty years.

As it turn out, Sean held the American record in the 400 freestyle for almost 17 years. Additionally, he beat Vladimir Salnikov--the Michael Jordan of distance freestylers--in the 1986 Goodwill Games. More importanly, Sean was able to takethe skills he learned in the pool and transition them into a brilliant career and marriage. There are few things that he talked about that I have been pondering on, and want to get them out into the internet. Here goes:

1. Worry About Yourself

Sean said that when he was growing up in New Jersey, he would always complain about what his brothers and sisters weren't doing to his mother. Mrs. Killion, being a wise and integrated human being, told her son, "Sean, worry about yourself." He said that was the best advice about life that he ever got. Maybe this is why Mr. Killion was able to accomplish so much: he listened to his mother, and he mastered a very difficult lesson at the age of 8.

The way I see it, a human being only has so much energy. Holding this constant, this energy needs to be put to the highest and best purpose each day. Any energy spent worrying about things that are outside of one's control, or are things that others should be doing but aren't is energy that could be redirected towards the task at hand. I am not saying don't be compassionate, or don't be concerned about family members. What I am saying is focus your energy towards the things of great importance and let the unimportant stuff go.

An example: At every workplace I have EVER been to, there are always a group of people or groups of people who love to talk about the ongoing of the office, who did what to whom and how, etc. I have never seen the thought leaders of the company engage in such behavior, they usually have their head down at a computer trying to figure out how to solve the real issues of the company. Case in point: If you want to be amongst the best at anything, keep your head down and worry about yourself.

2. Get Out of Your Own Way

At one point during Killion's talk, someone asked him, "How did you beat Salnikov?" At the time I had no idea who Vladimir Salnikov was. As far as I was concerned, Salnikov was Russian computer virus. A wry smile appeared on Killion's face, "Well," he said, "I just sort of got out of my own way. I had been training hard and feeling good in competition. I kept my head in my race and didn't worry about what Salnikov was doing. He made a slight mistake in his race, and I was able to capitalize on it."

Lots of times I think about epic performances being full of tricks or special knowledge. Most of the time the greatest performance in any arena are so basic that they almost seem magical. And in just focusing on the basics and getting the job done, you put yourself in a position to win rather than a position to lose.

3. Managing Your Highs and Lows

The last thing that Sean talked about while on deck was this: perceived success and failure is just feedback. Everyone will have "bad" days and everyone will have "great" days. If one can use success to stay focused on what is working, and use failure to correct the things that need work, then each day is a step in the right direction. If you can have that mentality with whatever you do, then you will consistently have satisfying results.

While I was working in public accounting, I knew early on that it wasn't the right career for me. Even though I have moved on, there are still a lot of wonderful little tricks that I picked up from those years. All experiences--in some way or another--can be used as direction to become the person that we want to be.

Thursday, April 06, 2006

5 Honest Seconds

"Five honest seconds can change your life.
- Taken from a book about the lives of pornographers found in a Venice Beach book store

The great lessons of one's life are very similar to stock market corrections: big swings in a positive or negative direction come unexpectedly. You are walking along going about your normal routine, then suddenly, you realize that what if you just don't do this, then your life will be utterly better. With this realization comes the hard part: practice. The great yogi Patthabi Jois states, "Yoga is 1% theory, and 99% practice." Same idea.

Well tonight, after having dinner with a lovely young woman, something became infinitely clear: Worrying about things before they can happen is a fantastic way to make yourself feel horrible. Obvious, I know, but it's something that I do and I have realized that others around me do as well. Instead of taking things task by task, I have a tendency to worry about what will happen if what I am doing doesn't go exactly the way I have planned. Specifically, this is most pronounced when I am in the office.

So, tonight the light bulb went on, the 5 Honest Seconds so to speak. And this is what I heard, "If you don't want to feel bad, then just do your work one piece at a time. When it's done, then keep your mind on what you are doing." Looks like I will get to go in tomorrow and apply the practice. Should be a great time.

Namaste